Friday, September 05, 2008

And yet again...

There's been a succession of funerals in my life the past few months. It started with the aunt who died as a result of severe burns. Then it was my sister-in-law's mother who had been ill for a long time. About two weeks ago my husband's cousin's daughter passed away. She was about 13 years old and hadn't been suffering any illness, I've been told, but died of heart failure. It was really sad because it was such a shock and she was so young. An act of God.

Back 'home' in America my mother's best friend passed away. She'd been battling cancer for quite a long time. I did my best to 'be there' for my mom via the internet. ... sigh...

Yesterday, after we broke our fast and the dishes had been washed and everyone was settling into their evening routine of either watching Libyan television programs or in my case taking a nap, the phone rang. It was more sad news about yet another death in the family. This time my husband's uncle who had died in a car accident. I hate to hear about car accidents. They're usually senseless deaths that most likely could have been prevented.

I really hate funerals here. I hate the DRAMA of them all. ... sigh... I dread the whole thing. I have to force myself to go... sigh...

Off I go... sigh...


  1. I am sorry for your husband's loss. Was this uncle related to the aunt who died from the fire? You are a good woman Teri, Sandi

  2. I really hate funerals too. I've been lucky that I haven't had to go to any lately...

  3. i agree with u..Car accidents' related deaths are usually preventable..I hate it when some body sigh and says(it's act of God)..yes,it's meant by God..But God asks us to use all means to preserve our selves...
    Bless you all
    P.S:I hate the exaggerated drama too...mostly it is some twisted way of social courtesy

  4. Hi Sandi - Thanks. The aunt was from my father in laws side of the family, this uncle is from my mother in laws side of the family. But the uncles son is married to the aunt's daughter so their related by marriage. two different families that saw each other at social gatherings get married and connect by marriage... ugghh... hehe

    akinoluna - glad to hear you've been funeral free.

    benghazi cit - exaggerated drama is no exxageration! lol

  5. So very sorry to hear of your family's loss. I think you have had more than your fair share.

  6. Sometimes I think death is the toughest part of life......
    Sorry for your families loss.It's nice you can be there for them.

  7. Its really sad to hear about your husband's loss , But as a muslim I dont think I should agree of what you siad about accidents I think this is what allah said and wanted so please stop saying things like that shame on you


  8. Condolences on these series of losses Khadijateri. Inshallah these will herald happiness somewhere.

    Ramandan Mubarak.

  9. to anonymous, Car accidents are preventable. thats what Khadijateri said. there's nothing wrong in that. In fact its wrong merely brushing off terrible accidents as an "Act of God" (Gada wa gadir) while we all know that most car accidents are caused by careless drivers. I mean, if a driver is speeding at 100 miles an hour in a residential road, its not a question of: will he cause an accident, its a question of: How many people will he injure or kill. I think thats a huge problem in islamic mentality, we think it's haram to criticize any past event and automatically put the blame on God. Yes, I am a muslim and I believe everything is "written" but it doesn't mean we have to live our lives in a fatalistic manner, believing we cant change or improve our lives. Why did you even leave a comment, did you believe you could change something?, after all it is "written". Shame on you.

  10. KhadijaTeri,

    I am sorry for your loss, Completely agree about funerals, three days of sitting around, like you don't have anything better to do, I'm a believer in staying 10-15 minutes max, pass on your condolences and leave. (family funerals though are a different matter altogether)

    Always the one to spark off a debate KT...

    Hope your having a good Ramadan otherwise.

  11. I am so sorry for all the loss you and your family have suffered - it seems like almost too much to bear. It's all so sad, especially the child. My condolences and best wishes to you.

  12. I am so sorry for you and your family ( alah kabir wa rahim )


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